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Hey, my Lovelies! I was recently having a conversation with a friend and realized I must have been born in the wrong era because my morals, ethics, and beliefs don\u2019t align with today\u2019s societal ways. I will tell anyone how much of an old-fashioned woman I am and stand 10 toes firm on my standards and beliefs as straying from them to \u2018fit in\u2019 with society\u2019s jankety ways doesn\u2019t sit well with my spirit and I also feel I\u2019d be disappointing my lineage if I didn\u2019t stay the course of what they worked so hard to create for and within me. I, personally, believe that simple and authentic human decency is a treasure that has been lost among us.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It amazes me how far we\u2019ve strayed from being just good humans to one another, in this day and age, people are all about self to the point when someone does something from the kindness of their heart, it\u2019s viewed as some sort of scam or an attempt to get over on another. There are so many facets to human decency, it doesn\u2019t just pertain to helping an elderly person cross a busy street or picking up a child\u2019s toy in a grocery store. Even these simple acts of kindness are sometimes questioned or met with looks of fear and words of anger for having the audacity to help. We have also been tainted and dissuaded from helping another because the number of people preying on the kindness of others has skyrocketed and we no longer know or believe who is truly in need.<\/p>\n\n\n

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Do I give money to every homeless person I see? Honestly, no I do not but that\u2019s not because my heart is cold, it\u2019s mainly because I very rarely ever have cash on me. I have been questioned as to why I would give them money and told they\u2019re just going to buy drugs or liquor with it but, the reality is, that\u2019s not my cross to bear. When I offer $1 to someone who appears in need, if they use it to cause further destruction in their lives, that\u2019s on them as it didn\u2019t come with rules, regulations, or stipulations. How would you feel if your employer required a detailed list of how you planned to spend every cent of the paycheck you worked for? Yes, I know some will argue that you worked for that paycheck while negating the fact that the countless homeless vets worked and risked their lives for this country. Looking out for one another and more for those in need is truly a treasure that has been lost in this selfish society.<\/p>\n\n\n

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I hate the fact that it\u2019s become such a common place thing in our lives to hear a youth has been senselessly shot and killed and no longer feel any sort of empathy or rage that we\u2019re slowly losing a generation to violence. I live in the DC metro area and I do what I can to avoid watching the news as it\u2019s filled with nothing but stories of gun violence and it\u2019s getting bolder and bolder as they\u2019re no longer waiting until nightfall, they don\u2019t care. I\u2019m old enough to remember when DC was called Dodge City because the drug game and violence seemed to be out of hand but at least then they were keeping it among themselves whereas now, no one is safe when children just trying to ride a bus home from school end up getting shot because biological adults don\u2019t know how to act and pull out a gun with the mindset it will solve the problem. When did we get to the point that we can\u2019t even enjoy nice weather by having lunch at a caf\u00e9 while sitting outside without having to worry about someone having beef and shooting the place up? The lack of human decency to care about devastating a family by killing their loved one because they crossed over into \u2018your territory\u2019, which is in absolutely no way yours<\/strong>, is truly a lost treasure.<\/p>\n\n\n

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I remember growing up with the understanding I had to be on, at least, good behavior at all times because my village was always watching and would report back to my parents if I decided to act like an untrained circus monkey at any time. For those who may be unaware, the village I speak of is comprised of family, friends, and neighbors who knew and respected my parents. The beauty of having a village caused us to be always accountable for our actions as we didn\u2019t just have to answer to our parents, we had discussions with the one who caught us and then took what they witnessed to our parents. I am 50 years old and still very mindful of how I act because I learned the hard way how many people know my family when my behavior got back to my mother and I was questioned and chastised on how I \u201dwas raised better than that<\/em>\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n

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With my grandfather having been the principal in a school for 30 years, everyone in that small town knew all generations of my family, there was no getting black out drunk and acting a complete ass or mouthing off to a cashier or bullying anyone as it got back home before I did. Again, the treasure of a village kept my ass in check and built a foundation to be mindful of my actions at all times regardless if I recognized every face in an establishment because there would always be that one person who recognized me even if I\u2019d never met them because my family has strong genes. No matter how much my sister wants to believe I was adopted, I can\u2019t dispute my lineage and blood line, I look too much like both sides of my family to attempt to get away with anything.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you\u2019ve been here for a while, you know I can\u2019t mention the loss of the treasure of human decency in relationships. I am dollar bill single and am comfortable with the fact I will probably remain this way because I don\u2019t have the time, tolerance, or patience for the lack of respect men have for women. I was raised with the old school understanding the man is the pursuer, if you want to talk to and get to know me, come correctly and that means, don\u2019t expect me to come over to your table to strike up a conversation and buy you a drink. I have had this conversation with a couple of men over the years and it\u2019s another area I stand 10 toes firm on. When did men get soft as baby shit and whine about wanting to be pursued? <\/p>\n\n\n

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If I have to make the first move because you\u2019re in your feminine energy, when does it stop? When do you put your big boy pants on and put in effort to make plans and be consistent with it? So many men want a woman to be submissive without having an understanding of how to lead because if they knew how to lead, they\u2019d know their woman would submit with no conversation, resistance, or conflict, it comes naturally. No, I am not putting all of this on men as women haven\u2019t helped make the situation any better because they\u2019ve stepped into the masculine energy and believe they can do the same thing as men and, in my opinion, it doesn\u2019t work that way. Have females had to learn how to do more things on their own in life due to the lack of a strong male? Yes, we sure have but sometimes we take it too far to the point we make a man feel as though they\u2019re neither needed or appreciated. \u00a0If there was still human decency in relationships, side pieces wouldn\u2019t be so prevalent and glorified, they\u2019d be shamed.<\/p>\n\n\n

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I can\u2019t tell you how we got away from being good and decent to one another but I can tell you I don\u2019t like it and make sure my children still display it in every form. Being a decent human being doesn\u2019t mean you have to go broke or be broken to help another, it simply means doing what you feel is right in your spirit. I can only speak for myself when I say this is how I was raised and understand everyone wasn\u2019t raised like me but I do have faith my generation shares this understanding. I refuse to let my human decency be a lost treasure as I will hold onto it with a white knuckled grip because anything less negates the efforts and struggles of my lineage to be and do better with each generation.  The lack of human decency in today\u2019s society stems from a lot of unhealed trauma and heartbreak and, I believe, once we learn how to heal, this may not be a treasure which is forever lost. Be great, my Loves!<\/p>\n\n\n

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