{"id":579,"date":"2018-12-02T16:22:53","date_gmt":"2018-12-02T21:22:53","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/grownwomanflow.com\/?p=579"},"modified":"2018-12-02T16:22:53","modified_gmt":"2018-12-02T21:22:53","slug":"from-what-cloth-are-you-cut","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/grownwomanflow.com\/index.php\/2018\/12\/02\/from-what-cloth-are-you-cut\/","title":{"rendered":"From what cloth are you cut?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Yes, I\u2019ve spoken on dating\/courting\/wooing before but with continued experiences, I\u2019m learning it\u2019s actually getting worse. I have bitching and venting sessions with my girlfriend on occasion and then get into unnecessarily heated and frustrating conversations with a male friend of mine and still have no legit answers, my head is just spinning more. It wasn\u2019t until I was perusing social media one day and came across a statement did I finally get the sad reality: Guys today are cut from the cloth of little effort<\/em>. \"ImageBAM! And there it is! Such a simple, yet profound, statement put everything into perspective; enough females are accepting this lackluster attempt that the guys believe all females will accept and go along with it. I\u2019m sorry to break it to you but every female isn\u2019t cut from that cloth of \u2018a text here and there is good enough to get the pannies\u2019.<\/p>\n

Let\u2019s start with the minimal effort texts in the morning. Some people feel as though that\u2019s enough to show interest in another person even though there is no follow up conversation throughout the day and it definitely doesn\u2019t flow over into the weekend. Why would I entertain someone who only thinks about me during the week while they\u2019re sitting in traffic and sends me a text which takes 3 seconds? Are you not interested on the days we could actually go out and spend real time together? Oh, my bad, those texts were supposed to woo and warm me up during the week and make me want you that much more come Saturday, right?\u00a0\"ImageOh, but wait, you don\u2019t have time for me on the weekends, so, I\u2019m just supposed to sit around and wait for you to hit me up Monday morning and make my week brighter. When I\u2019ve been having this discussion with my friend, I\u2019ve been told to be the mirror of what I want to receive and I agree with him 1000%, which is why I don\u2019t entertain those low effort dudes. I am so sorry, really I\u2019m not, that I don\u2019t accept a mere 5 \u201cGood Morning\u201d texts as some sort of real effort. What happened to conversation once we\u2019re both no longer at work? Hell, what happened to communicating and trying to spend time with me on the weekend? Can a sista get some conversation that isn\u2019t of the sexual nature? I mean, you may be a\u2019ight looking but that\u2019s not what these pannies come off for and if you spent\u00a0any<\/strong>\u00a0time getting to know me, you\u2019d realize it. You put forth so little effort by spending 3 seconds of your morning sending me a text and no more follow up and then want me to chase or be all over and begging to have sex with you?!\"Image<\/p>\n

While I agree effort needs to be matched on both sides, I\u2019m obviously cut of the ancient, forgone cloth of old school where the female doesn\u2019t chase the male. If you are interested in actually being with me outside of the bedroom, you need to show me the interest is there by reaching out and communicating with me with something more than Good Morning. Oh, my bad, I see where the confusion seems to come into play, so, let me break it down a lil. Ahem, meager \u2018Good Morning\u2019 texts aren\u2019t communicating and conversing, they\u2019re merely speaking as you would to a stranger on the street. \"RelatedI speak to my coworkers every morning, Monday thru Friday and it\u2019s never been taken as me wooing or showing interest in them, they merely say it back so and we go about our workday, why would a text stating the same be any different?<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t get me wrong, I\u2019m not so much of a prude that I don\u2019t get the fact that the most sought after end result is sex but what happens after that, is that when your interest is truly peaked and you want to get to know me? Was the cookie that good that you want to get to know the actual person now? I don\u2019t know about you but in order to get to know \u2018her\u2019 on an intimate level, you must get to know me first. \"RelatedMaybe if we put forth as little effort in the bed by laying there like a dead fish as they put forth to get us there, they\u2019d try harder. But then again, you have a lot of dudes whose sole purpose it was to get their lil dang-a-lang wet and bust a nut and accomplished it so, they go about their business as if they earned it.\"Image<\/p>\n

Another area of the dating world where way too little effort is put forth is an actual date. Maybe I\u2019m the anomaly because I\u2019m not impressed enough to give you some coochie because you want to take me to Outback. Really? You thought that was going get my pannies wet and have me all over you? If that\u2019s your plan, please miss me with that bullshit and let it stick to someone else because, at this stage in my life, I don\u2019t have time for the nonsense.\"Image When you are dealing with a grown woman, money doesn\u2019t impress her because she makes her own and can buy her own meals, try doing something she wouldn\u2019t or couldn\u2019t do for herself. Usually, I\u2019d give some suggestions on things you could do to woo and impress a grown woman but too many don\u2019t care to pay attention and actually do it so\u2026\u2026\u2026\u2026\u2026 And, sorry guys but sex also falls into the category of things I can do for myself instead of dealing with your nonsense, lies and inconsistencies. I just don\u2019t understand why guys feel the need to lie to get laid and think it\u2019s going to work?! I also don\u2019t understand why they think that it\u2019s okay to ask whose place we would be having sex at before the first date?! I would ask, \u201cWhere they do that at<\/em>\u201d? but everything I\u2019m speaking of is from personal experience and they do it in 2018 and wherever they are breathing. Maybe you can help me out here on understanding who these bogus, low effort ass lines work on because I can see straight thru them!\"Image Unfortunately, the sad reality is they\u2019ve worked on more than one person because the guys are repeating them with the confidence and intention of reaping the same result of an easy lay. And, trust me, when they realize they are going to have to put in some true, legit effort to get laid, it\u2019s amazingly sad how quickly those texts trickle away to nothing at all.<\/p>\n

Please don\u2019t get me wrong, I know this is not just the guys\u2019 fault because females have made it way, way, WAY too acceptable and easy for guys to continue to behave in this manner. Some females have had such horrible experiences that the simple \u2018Good Morning\u2019 text is enough to fulfill her day, she doesn\u2019t care if she hears from him until the next morning, as long as he spoke. She feels it\u2019s enough because he\u2019s consistently doing it every morning and that\u2019s what matters to her. I\u2019m sorry, love, but that\u2019s not true consistency because I know some people who have auto texts sent out at a specific time every day, he may have already forgotten he had it set up while you\u2019re letting that smidgen of effort brighten your day.\u00a0 Too many of us have been so damaged by others that we don\u2019t believe we\u2019re worthy of anything more and will still give all of ourselves to the brothas cut of the cloth of little effort and treat him like a king when he\u2019s nothing more than the court jester.<\/p>\n

Just because you don\u2019t run across them every day doesn\u2019t mean there aren\u2019t still females who expect you to put forth some real effort in order to get our most precious gift because there are so many who don\u2019t appreciate the gift between their legs and dole it out like Halloween candy and those <\/strong>are the ones you can send your lil raggedy Good Morning<\/em> and nothing else to. \"ImageIf you want to experience what it\u2019s like to deal with a grown ass woman, call her with some conversation, ask her how her day was, plan a date with her, don\u2019t sit around sending \u201cGood Morning\u201d or even \u201cWYD\u201d texts to her and thinking she\u2019s going to be impressed with it. You claim to be a grown ass man because you\u2019re going to work every day and paying your bills as an adult should, why stop there? If you\u2019re going to claim the title, you should live your life in the same manner by not tarnishing the crown with a lackluster \u201cGood Morning\u201d texts. Just as I should be a mirror, so should you.\"Related<\/p>\n

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