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<\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\nI\u2019ve also been blessed to have many conversations with a scorned male and those are trying, exhausting as well as eye opening. As a woman, I know we love hard, give chance after chance to someone because we see them at their core and believe they\u2019ll come around and see themselves as we do, and we all too often put their needs ahead of our own well-being. I would never tell anyone what would, should, could or not work for them because that\u2019s their situation; I just speak on what I know for a fact won\u2019t work for me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u00a0Let\u2019s start with the side pieces, shall we? I\u2019ve seen so many stories about a wife going after the husband\u2019s mistress\/side piece instead of dealing with him. Wait, when did the other woman become so much more acceptable but given such a dirty title? Back in the day, the other woman had the sophisticated title of \u201cMistress\u201d and now she\u2019s just a \u201cSide Chick\u201d but has gained more privileges. Society is so screwed up! Back in the day, the mobsters would have certain nights that they all partied with their mistresses and reserved nights where they brought their wives and treated them both like princesses, both women tolerated it because he was holding down the household and they never wanted for anything. Now?\u00a0 It has become so blatantly disrespectful with these males being bold enough to bring their side chick on their honeymoon cruise or even having her at family gatherings where he is with his wife. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
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<\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\nThe other woman rarely has all her bills paid and living a life of luxury for being a secret sex kitten to this male. The side chick has become just as involved in the guy\u2019s life as the wife is by hanging out with his friends and family members who are accepting of the infidelity their boy is committing. Again, I don\u2019t give a rat\u2019s ass what society has accepted, this is not cool with me, I do not accept extra people in my relationship or marriage! If you feel you need to be with someone else, leave me the hell alone and go do you by yourself, don\u2019t take my heart, pride, emotions and respect with you. \u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n
There are so many aspects of all of this that I just don\u2019t understand; it makes me dizzy, like, why go after the other woman in a fit of rage? She didn\u2019t make a vow with you in front of family, friends, and GOD, he did; this woman didn\u2019t make a commitment to you, he did; this woman didn\u2019t vow to be with you and you only til death do you part, he did; this woman doesn\u2019t lay next to you in bed every night, sharing her body, hopes and dreams with you, he does. She may have no clue he’s even married and yet, here you are so afraid of being alone, you’re willing to risk jail time and a record by fighting, stalking and possibly killing another woman who shared your man. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
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<\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\nWhy is it that you rarely hear of a woman slicing her husband\u2019s face or pistol whipping him when she finds out he hasn\u2019t kept his lil dang-a-lang in his pants? Now, I don\u2019t know what life is like once she confronts him but, unfortunately, nine times out of ten, the marriage remains intact, it may be a little rocky but she isn\u2019t going anywhere but he also doesn\u2019t keep it in his pants for only her, why would he? This male has stepped out, had an affair, gotten a woman beat up and insulted but his home is still relatively intact, he\u2019s suffered no real consequences because his wife would rather have a piece of him than the entirety he promised her. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
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<\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\nThe reality of all of this is you have no idea what this male is telling the other woman about his marriage and that\u2019s if he\u2019s even admitting he\u2019s married. When I got married, our rings were a symbol of our commitment to one another and if we ever took them off, it was a sign we didn\u2019t want to be in the marriage anymore or someone had some serious making up to do.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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<\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n Nowadays, a lot of males don\u2019t even bother to wear a wedding ring with the lame ass excuse of \u201cI don\u2019t like jewelry<\/em>\u201d or \u201cI\u2019m allergic to gold\/platinum\/titanium on my hands<\/em>\u201d while sporting an expensive watch and necklace. <\/p>\n\n\n\n The bullshit they come up with is just as comical as it is lame. As a single woman, you\u2019d be amazed how many supposed unhappily married men exist in this world who think you should be flattered to be his other woman. The most common story line I\u2019ve \u00a0heard is, \u201cI\u2019m only with her for the children<\/em>\u201d but you also have, \u201cWe\u2019ve been together for so long, it\u2019s no point in divorce<\/em>\u201d or \u201cIt\u2019s a financial thing, I\u2019d lose more by divorcing her but we don\u2019t even sleep in the same bed<\/em>\u201d and, my fave, \u201cWe don\u2019t even have sex anymore<\/em>\u201d.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n I\u2019m sorry, sir, I am not interested in spending all of the holidays alone while you drink, eat and be merry with both of your families nor am I interested in sitting around, waiting for you to come up with the perfect acceptable lie to be able to see me and being understanding of the fact you\u2019re going to do the hoe stroll because there\u2019s no way you\u2019d ever be able to spend the night with me. Yes, they may take you away on a vacation they have lied to their wife about being a boy\u2019s trip but you can\u2019t post any pics of the 2 of you together or boast about this man who\u2019s swept you away to an island on any form of social media because you have to stay in your lil dirty secret lane. <\/p>\n\n\n\n The\nbiggest aspect I don\u2019t understand about infidelity is being with your side\npiece and going home to your partner and kissing them with the same mouth you\njust had on the other person\u2019s private parts and doing all kinds of nastiness\nwith. How do you look your partner in the face as though you weren\u2019t just choking\nsomeone else in a fit of passion? How do you differentiate between who likes\nwhat? My biggest question is HOW?! Being a divorcee\u2019, obviously I\u2019ve been\nmarried, when I was, it was about him and only him, other guys didn\u2019t catch my\neye because I was focused on pleasing the ONE I had at home. The fact that side\npieces are running so ramped in society shows me that majority of the people\nwalking this earth have no conscience and are all about self. If you truly\nloved, cherished and respected the person you are with, you\u2019d never be able to\neven kiss another person in a passionate way which could lead to sex. But hey,\nthis is merely my opinion and I\u2019ve been told my mentality is antiquated because\nI still believe in the ideal of marriage. What can I say? I love LOVE and\nnothing will change that, not even heartbreak because it wasn\u2019t love that broke\nmy heart but someone who didn\u2019t know how to love who did.<\/p>\n\n\n\n It is a sad and unfortunate time we live in where females strive to be the other woman more than they seek being a wife because they are receiving some of the wifey privileges and being able to continue to live their life, to an extent. You will have some men who tell their other woman to continue to do her but you have many more who believe they are to be faithful to someone who isn\u2019t faithful to her or his wife.<\/p>\n\n\n\n There is no way you are able to build a life or future with someone else\u2019s partner because when and if he ever decides to leave her, he\u2019s not running to your door with an engagement ring promising to commit to you. There are women who have been the secret for decades, wasting their lives by pining for the day this man decides to leave his wife, hanging onto every promise of \u201cWhen our youngest graduates from high school, I\u2019m all yours<\/em>\u201d but when that child graduates, then it becomes \u201cOnce we sell the house, I\u2019m all yours<\/em>\u201d, house gets sold and you\u2019re still alone, cherishing every secret phone call he can sneak and make. This is a never ending cycle, if he wasn\u2019t happy, he\u2019d have left her and come for you correctly, in a manner which honors your worth. You may wreck the home but you’ll never get the man. <\/p>\n\n\n\n I will agree that the selection of available men out here is quite slim pickings but you are worth having someone who is all about you, not someone who is able to see you because they stated they\u2019re working overtime, you deserve someone who doesn\u2019t only think about how you make them feel in the bedroom, you deserve the dates in public where everyone can see the 2 of you together without having to worry if that\u2019s his wife\u2019s friend in the corner with a cell phone capturing your night out. \u00a0We all deserve to be able to scream from the mountain tops about the person who has our heart, not remain silent about loving the person who does a hoe stroll because they can\u2019t spend the night away from the home they share with someone else. <\/p>\n\n\n\n It\u2019s time we realized our worth and waited patiently for the one who respects and appreciates us for it. Don\u2019t settle for a piece of a man, you deserve him in his entirety and if he can\u2019t give you that, move on because the one for you and only you is out there. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"![\"Image](\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.zikoko.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/removing-ring.gif?resize=250%2C141&ssl=1\")
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